From a young age, you know you want a house full of children. You may think your partner, play ball with the kids in the garden and a black lab who will chase a tennis ball in the middle of everything. You and your husband will cook meals together, taste the soup, cuddle in bed on Sunday morning and listen-Pitter patter little feet rushing into your room. You have it all thought. Then you spend the next year to change your dating habits in the hope of finding the perfect husband. He now holds a ham to cook an average girl, and she was in love with a boy who was the perfect uncle niece and nephew. You buy a ring and now …. You are here. Happily ever after.
Let us move a few years now. You’re both tired and stressed about money and children are still funny – often tedious and annoying. All your life turned Topsy turvy and a little more than a platform designed for small living your life happier than making your own. Sex falls, you do not talk with your partner, and you live in a constant edge of something that feels like irritation. If at any time, you might explode. Of course, not because you have become well equipped to stress and constant change of plans and dreams for a treat. For most, however, the picture perfect life, she thought lost in a sea of constant doing.
Raising children is difficult. At some point, you have to wonder why people do not really prepare. Why is no one on your wedding and said, “No!” You must be wondering why you had a kid, then two and three children there is not some well-meaning soul is telling you that you’re destroying your life. No, of course. Children can add a lot of things in your life and it is a natural development of humanity to the children. But this is certainly not a happy affair as it looks. And then spread as a further insult, just like another mother and father, this “ideal” generated by posting photos on Facebook, write Christmas cards that talk about your kids when they no longer exist. You know, painting the perfect picture of family life. All smiles, when the reality is that in your home a secret war going on. The war became what you want and the perfect partner and parents.
While all this may seem a bit pessimistic, it’s pretty spot on. Couples everywhere are so used to adjust the dreams and roll with the punches that they actually have whiplash. And very funny baby and toddler stage are replaced by teenage teenage hormones and ungrateful, you’ll wonder how you managed to be drawn into a life for yourself. You spend any time raising children waiting in front and try to prepare yourself for something that is impossible to predict. You hope like hell that your husband is still out there somewhere waiting in the wings and then you start planning your life together with the empty nest – pray that your children will visit and not too crazy for you experienced parenting skills.
You are sorry, your fault, you feel like you missed out on many important things because you’re constantly busy and then you start thinking about posterity. Ah-hah! Now you. Are you aware of enlightenment that when no one warns you, no one tells you about how difficult it is to raise children because they, like you do now, grandchildren want to right all the mistakes they made as parents feel. They want their life experience to take to erase their mistakes, and threw it to enjoy something so beautiful, so innocent and so precious that no one under 45 can truly appreciate. Children! Your children. And there you go …. The truth about raising children.
